Updated: Mar 15
📈 It's a learning curve: The trip combines discovering the undiscovered self with discovering the unborn. Slowly, I started paying attention to my body's needs, and baby's cues & which helped me a lot. Despite my best attempts, I still made mistakes, but I learned to accept that I would.
👷♀️ Some days are hard: I remember during the 2nd week of pp, our baby girl used to cry for hours continuously and it was terrible to know that I couldn't console her. It didn't last long, it got better every day. I realized I had to give her time to adapt to the environment. Hold her longer to mimic the womb. I realized - some days will be hard and most of the days are terrific ❤️.
🤯 The brain freeze is real: I had trouble finding the right words and felt sorry for myself. Since my pregnancy and then c-section, my body has undergone significant changes, and now it is under additional pressure to heal my stitches across seven layers. I'll give my body, my brain, and the nourishment they need to fully recuperate.
👩🍼 I don't enjoy every moment of motherhood - Yes, I do not and I do not think we can. Sometimes I miss my old me, then I feel I just want to stop time and snuggle my baby girl with a smile on always. Oh ho, such a rollercoaster ride of emotions. There is no definition of being a super mom, I am the super mom.
P.S there is no bad mom, there are only bad moments.
👫 Relationship with partner changes: I resented him, I felt my whole world had changed, I felt my career was on hold, I felt tired all day and all night, and I felt everything was on me, whereas nothing changed for him. But after being open and honest with him, I realized that he was also going through all of this for the first time. He always asked me "tell me what to do, so that you felt better" to which my default answer was "I do not know". None of us knew, and over time, we both learned to rely on one another. He knows me better than before, and I love him.
🍻 My Friendships have changed: I am thankful to all my friends who talk to me and have been "all ears" whenever I needed them. Bcoz these days, I need someone who can only listen to my banter! And to the few, who I lost bcoz I couldn't hang out, I am sorry!
📧 Worry n search internet for everything: at first, I had to rely on what everyone told me because I didn't know any better. later I used an app to track the sleep & feeding hours, poop color, and pee time of the baby. I can't even express how intensely stressful that was. It took me a month to learn how to read my baby's cues and realize that each baby is different and that using the internet's Milestones is not the best method way to access my baby. My pediatrician informed me that a baby understands when to eat and when to sleep. After that, It took me 30 days to accept that my child understands her body. The only cue, I am now worried about is the unconsolable cry.
🙏 Thanks to @newmother.in for curating the course that covered all the basics I needed, starting from recipes to keep myself healthy to best practices for a better latch. And most importantly the community, where I get to ask my questions, other moms and founders themselves share their experiences. Additionally, the sessions conducted by experts are of great help. One-stop solution to any doubts!